Saturday, July 6, 2013
Galship: A rant.
When I left the convent because it was not my vocation, I began to meet with a group of women who were lobbying their judicatories for the ordination of women in many different denominations. (1975) It was the
but it wasn't in that group either.
I did meet J in that group and found in her the kind of sisterhood that I imagined the convent was trying to imitate. It was a companionship and love that centered in our ministries rather than on a 'coupled' life or making a family. We have lived together for almost 40 years growing to know what it to live through hardship, fear, misunderstanding simply because neither the Church or 'sisterhood' could really open their eyes to what it means to live holy lives without the support of either marriage or partnership.
I must admit that I do not trust 'galship' much. I have met many in revgals that I have come to know and cherish just as I do members of parishes and those who do not even believe in God. I have been iced by women colleagues just as surly as I have been men. Maybe I am a horrible person but I really think I am just 'odd.' I am different, not fitting into anyone's pigeonhole . I don't mind being in that spot. It is how I have been called to live my life--but is not one where there is a lot of support and friendship. I speak my mind. I resent being excluded. I work hard to make sure that people are accepted as they are. I am also very short on those who 'pee on my leg and tell me it's raining.' I have a hard time accepting insincerity from colleagues. I can tolerate a bit more from parishioners--but not from those who have sworn to live the Truth of Christ.
I find younger women incredible dense when it comes to us older ones. They want everything the way they invision it without having had to pay their dues by working for it. They do not realize they will be where we are in the future and they are scared pissless of it. The thought of being stoggy doesn't even cross their minds. They too will become what we are--what I am becoming simply because we are being excluded from the ministry, society and shuffled off into age 'appropriate' residents rather than accepting and listening to us.
So much for "Galship". It may work for some but do not count on it. The time will come when all will be just those who are smiled at, called 'Sweetie' and ignored.
If we were about real sisterhood, we would be trying to organize what is particular to women's gifts for the ministry and highlighting those particular gifts even if the 'boys' don't like it. If we were about real sisterhood we could sit quietly in prayer with one another and not play one upmanship simply because we cannot abide someone else getting ahead or the silence of real togetherness. If we were about real sisterhood we could tolerate the wide ranging differences among us rather than dwelling on the samenesses that make us look like the male-imaged priesthood/pastorhood that we seem to emulate.
Ok, now that I have shot off my mouth, I would invite you to agree or disagree. You are welcome always.