Thursday, June 27, 2013
Ding, Dong DOMA is Dead!
What am I to think of the Supreme Court this week? The failure of DOMA is so wonderful for all of the country. Personally I think that the Church should get out of the marrying business because so much of marriage has to do with 'rights' that come with being married rather than the love and commitment that I believe that faithful marriage means. The government involvement in the whole structure of marriage make the pastoral act of witnessing the vows of two people to each other a sham anyway.
But with that said, what the dashing of DOMA does is say that LGBTQ folk have a place in todays society just as surly as other minorities in our nation. Our world is so coupled. There is a reason that the Noah story talks about the ark being filled two by two. It is the way that human beings seem to relate. Being
For almost 40 years J and I have lived together. We are not espoused and unless the benefits to our Social Security could change (our pension would not), we will not be. We are not a couple in that sense. We love each other so very much, but we are not an espoused couple. We stay together because we know that we don't do well apart.
But I wish with DOMA's being struck down that the world would re-evaluate the meaning of marriage altogether. I know that the Episcopal Church, when we passed the Blessing of Same-Sex Unions, chose to ask for a full study of the meaning of marriage by the Standing Commission of Liturgy and Music. We assume that marriage as it stands today is the way that it has always been. But that is not true. Marriage has
I do think that the relationship between people who are married is often something of the mystical. And I can understand why the Church has been willing to be a part of
Throughout the month of June one of the announcers on WRR, the local classical music station, has been playing various selections that could be used for weddings. As one who has done too many weddings to count and am tired of Purcell, Mendelssohn, or the current sloppy tune too, she went through a good bit of the literature to show what kind of music could be used for weddings. It was quite informative. But the emphasis on the romantic was a bit over the top. It was mit Schlag (with whipped cream). And this type of understanding of marriage sets up the wrong expectation of marriage. And added to the "magic" often expected of sacraments, some young people really believe that the sacrament will make their rather ragged relationship into something of storybooks. More than half of the weddings have officiated at have ended up in divorce. Did I do a bad job? I don't think so because I don't marry a couple in the first place. They make the marriage themselves. All I do is give the Church's Good Housekeeping seal of approval.
Those of us who are different have a right to be different. We don't have to go through life with the Ark
Now we are still waiting to find out if the Episcopal Church will considered an hierarchical church in the state of Texas. Go figure...